3.18.2014

Kismet



Last night, I shared an intense conversation with someone who has become close to me in the last couple of years. We've always had in-depth conversation...I guess because we both have still waters running pretty deep. But last night was especially sobering for me. He told me about his now ex-girlfriend and what it was like, for him, to go through a miscarriage with her. He told me how he felt, knowing he’d never hold his daughter or see her grow up. And I could tell he was fighting back some of the emotion of it. He also shared his understanding of what a miscarriage does to us – the physical, the mental, the emotional. With him being so candid, it was more than easy for me to offer my perspective and tell him of my recent experiences with the same situation. It was simple for me to relate to his thoughts and feelings on the situation, as well as his ex-girlfriend’s. And likewise, by him being so open with me, he gave me insight into what it’s like for the father involved in a miscarriage. While he was learning about miscarriage trauma for us, I was learning about miscarriage trauma for him.

I’ve said that people go in and out of our lives for a reason. It’s the right people that keep coming around, for one purpose or another. I feel like he’s come back around to remind me that sometimes, emotions can be shared. and mirrored. and support can come from the most random of places. Our conversation was a pleasant reminder that this same support can be provided even when we don’t ask outright. Why deny each other a shoulder to cry on, or an arm to lean on? Fate has, at the bare minimum, made us friends for a lifetime.

3.14.2014

Things I Learned

About love

1) You will enter your next relationship as healthy as you left your last

2) Real love allows you to be who you really are

3) The heart is every bit as strong as the mind; often stronger

4) When love bites, you can move on

5) You can only love others as much as you love yourself

3.09.2014

Inquiring Minds

why does what I do & say, how I choose to live, affect people so. Why does it UPSET people so? why do they persist to talk down on me simply because I don't conform to the ways they want me to. if you are not my parent, husband, child, or caregiver it shouldn't even be a concern of theirs. my religion or culture don't have anything to do with you. actually. I take that back. it isn't even a matter of religion or culture or environment or anything of the sort. regardless of one's choice/role/position in any 'group' of people, we are allowed to look at life, experience it, and choose our own path to follow. I don't conspire to the 'norms' of any of my cultures. I'm not catholic just because my parents chose to be. I don't look down on people who didn't go to college, whether it be by choice or circumstance. I don't have the time to entertain someone's attempts at undermining my way of living. I'm not going to stand here and let you shame me into following into your footsteps. fact - everyone is entitled to their own opinions and views. misconception - everyone is required to impose those opinions and views on everyone else they meet.

Jeez...if we were all that alike we may as well have a hive mind, just one thinker for all. Where's the fun in that? I need diversity. My nature is too curious to be stuck in one box sitting in the middle of a dead end road. I fancy growth and change; understanding of the world around me and others role in it. afford me the same courtesy I give you. Let. me. live. Don't misdirect your anger at me just because you can't comprehend how I can be so free and open. It's not as hard as you keep telling yourself it is.

3.08.2014

Wordle

I collected 35 words from 35 unique people for my wordle project. 3 of them, 3 completely unassociated people offered 'loyal' as their definition of me. while each word (and reasoning behind it provided) touched me deeply, the fact that loyal ranked top means a lot. And adventurous cane in twice! I didn't expect to have doubles, let alone a tripling of one word. but I'm grateful that so many see me in such great ways. And I appreciate every kind word offered.